change is the only constant.

every time i log on to the internet the first thing i see is yahoo's homepage. in the news section they usually have about four stories or reports that are current. some are relevant and should be seen by the general public. some are absolutely ridiculous and aren't even news at all. i personally enjoy the ridiculous articles over the serious ones.
one of yesterday's headliners was a letter written in to yahoo asking for dating advice. the woman had been dating a man for a few weeks now and things had been going well. after a while the man stopped making an effort. he had not been feeling well and the woman blamed his indifference towards her on his sickness. since he had not bothered to call, the woman wrote in to yahoo to ask for advice.
all the contributors basically agreed that she should give up all hope and abandon mission. i am not sure whether i agree or disagree with that. but that is not the reason i am writing this. i do not know this woman or the man she is pursuing and i don't feel that i can give useful advice to her. but what really got to me was a remark that one of the contributors made. they explained that sickness was no excuse for ignoring her. and they then stated "love is constant." implying that he should call her no matter what.
as soon as i read this statement i was completely taken aback by it's obvious invalidity. personally, i have never experienced any kind of love in my nineteen years of life that has been completely constant, 100% of the time. love and devotion come in waves, it seems. there are times when you feel the violently strong emotions of love, and there are times when you do not.
i think that to make relationships, friendships, and marriages work you need to fully realize that there will be times that are less exciting than the rest. but those less exciting times are exactly what makes the good times so much better.
one of my favorites quotes is about long lasting love. and i honestly live by it. i don't know where i heard it or who said it. but i love it. an old couple was questioned about their long lasting marriage. people wanted to know how they had lasted so long. they replied "we never fell out of love at the same time."
point is: people fall out of love. there are plenty of down times. but stick it out, because you will find it again. i promise. i don't break it off with brian every time i have a doubt. and i don't walk out on friendships because i'm currently annoyed. love can suck, but it can also be amazing. don't ditch something because of one bad experience. because then you are just another number in a divorce rate survey.